Worrying About the Future and How to Stop ItDec 17, 2021
The future is an uncertain place. You never quite know what will happen, and that uncertainty can be frightening. Sometimes, we can only worry about it, but this doesn't solve anything. It might feel like you're taking action by worrying, but all you're doing is stressing yourself out without any tangible results to show for it. The future will come no matter what you do, so why not make the most of your present moment instead?
Stop worrying about the future.
If there is one thing that is certain about the future, it's full of uncertainty. Nobody knows what exactly will happen in the future. Of course, we can make all the plans and preparations, hoping to achieve our desired outcomes. However, we can only know if our endeavors will be a success or a failure once we take action and make it to the end. Many things can change our desired outcome, and the only thing we can do is adapt and adjust accordingly to what can happen.
That's not to say that we shouldn't make plans or goals anymore. On the contrary, these things are essential since they guide us on approaching life and what actions we should do to achieve something in life. However, what we should cut on is worrying. If you constantly worry about something that is yet to happen, you're wasting valuable time. Instead, you can use the time and energy for worries on something else, like creating a plan or taking action. Of course, it's normal to feel worried sometimes over something uncertain, but if you spend time only worrying, you won't get anywhere. It's pretty much the same as feeling regret for something you did or didn't do in the past; only this time, it's the future we are concerned about thinking. And just like how you can move past regret, there are also several things that you can do to stop worrying about the future.
1. Focus on what you can control
Wanting to take control of everything in your life can lead to worrisome thoughts. The thing is, you can't control everything. So many factors can influence our daily lives: other people's decisions, the weather, economic changes, unforeseen circumstances, etc. You can't control everybody since each of us has our independent will. So you start to worry when things don't fall into place according to your expectations.
It's better to ride the flow of life and adjust to whatever it decides to throw on us. Of course, some of the things life will throw are not pleasant, but we must learn to adapt. Most of the time, it's our thoughts and feelings that we can control. We can choose how to react and what to do once things happen. Focus on what you can control so you won't stress yourself worrying.
2. Talk to somebody
The next time you worry, ask yourself. Are you trying to take it all by yourself? If yes, have you tried talking to somebody and asking for help? The act of talking to somebody can help alleviate some of our worries. Be it a family, friend, coach, or therapist, having a lending ear can help us feel more relaxed. Speak out about your struggle to them, and you might even get a piece of advice or a helping hand to help stave off your worries.
3. Think about the worst-case scenario, then act to prevent it
Thinking about worst-case scenarios can strike fear in our hearts and minds. However, there is a catch to this. Thinking about the worst scenario that could occur, you can then do something to prevent it from happening. See what resources you have at your disposal and utilize them all, along with your skills and knowledge, to make plans and take action, then hope for the best. Think of it like preparing for a coming storm. You never know how much damage the storm will do to your household, but if you have prepared and done your best to weather it, you can still come out strong after the storm passes. Who knows, the storm might not even do much damage to your house. Think of the storm as the worst-case scenario. It may or may not happen, and even if it does, it might not be that worse after all.
4. Live in the present moment
Worrying involves thinking about things that are yet to occur. It's even possible that what you are worrying about will not happen. Instead, why not focus on the present moment. Watch your surroundings and appreciate your environment. Focus on what you are currently doing. Please use what you have and know, then start acting on them. You can also appreciate life better by enjoying what you do in the present and appreciating what you currently have.
5. Reinforce yourself with positive thoughts
Chronic worrying can lead you to have negative thoughts. You gain more anxiety and stress thinking about what can go wrong in the future. Instead of worrying about what can go wrong, replace your anxious thoughts with more positive ones. Think about what can happen right. Believe that your plans and actions will bear fruit. Make some self-assertion that you can do it. Take a deep breath and look forward instead to what lies ahead.
Don't let worrying take away your happiness.
Constant worrying can rob you of the many opportunities that the world offers. Worrying can paralyze you, leading you to avoid taking chances, making you miss opportunities. You become afraid of what can go wrong, so you choose to stay in your comfort zone. Also, happiness goes away from you when you worry, and your energy drains in the process. You don't want to stay in a low mood. Keep this idea in your head: plan for the future, do everything you can, and hope for the best. So stop worrying and focus on what you can do instead of fantasizing about a dystopian scenario that might not even happen.