How to Be More Considerate of OthersDec 12, 2022
It's no secret that being considerate of others makes life better. When we are considerate, we are more likely to get along with the people around us and positively impact their lives. This blog post will discuss ways to be more considerate of the people in your life.
We need more considerate people in the world.
Consideration happens when we take time and effort to do something that can benefit others. For example, perhaps people need help or are feeling bad, so we do something to make them feel better and improve their lives even by a little bit. To be considerate means not thinking that the world only revolves around you. So many others around you can directly or indirectly affect your life. Consideration means opening your eyes to what is happening in others' lives and how you might be able to do something for them. Empathy and kindness help one to be more considerate of people's welfare. There are several ways to be considerate of others, and we must become mindful first of others before we can begin doing something for them.
1. Practice empathy
Empathy is the ability to feel and think about what others may be experiencing, even if they don't explicitly tell you about them. It's like intuition that somebody may need help or is not okay. When we become capable of having empathic thoughts, it can lead to us having the ability to act to do something to help others. Without empathy, it can be challenging to extend aid to others if we don't see, or at least imagine, that they may need some help. So it is essential to develop empathy if we want to be more considerate of others and choose to act if somebody needs help.
2. Help others
Helping others is good, and it shows that you care about people. Each of us faces struggles and problems, and we need all the help to overcome them. Sometimes, it is not enough to solve a problem alone, which is when getting support from others can help. Attending to other people's needs is a good act that others can appreciate, and they may also help you in case you are the one that gets into a predicament. So whenever you can help someone with your abilities and knowledge, try to do it as much as you can, as it is an act of consideration that can go a long way.
3. Look at how others may see a situation
There is an idiom that goes "to put yourself in someone else's shoes." It means considering what other people may think about a particular case. This thinking is essential in helping us be more considerate of others. People have varying opinions about things, and each of us may have different circumstances that lead us to think about something in a particular way. Therefore, putting ourselves in other people's shoes will help us be less judgmental because they may think differently. It can lead to more civil discussions and make us more open-minded.
4. Listen to others when they talk to you
A considerate person knows how to listen to somebody when they are speaking to him. Listening to others is a considerate act because it shows that what others say matters and that you are willing to dedicate some time to listening to them. We all like to feel appreciated, and listening properly to others does that. So whenever someone speaks to you, don't act rude by getting distracted over something while talking to you, or don't give your full attention to them. Try your best to hear what they say; you might learn something interesting and valuable, which helps you be more mindful of what others are going through.
5. Pick the right words to say to people
As much as we should listen to people, we should also pay attention to how we speak to others. People can react differently to what we say; for example, some interpret constructive criticism as is, while others deem it offensive. Varying experiences, cultural backgrounds, and perspectives can make people see things differently, so we must pick the right words when talking to others. Consider how people may react to what you say and be sensitive to them.
6. Say sorry when you wrong someone or commit a mistake
We sometimes commit mistakes, and our acts may hurt others. When such a thing happens, we must apologize to those affected by our actions. Apologizing is an act of consideration as we show others that we care about people and the effect our efforts may bring. On the other hand, not apologizing can be an act of pride and selfishness and show that you don't care even if others get trampled by your decisions and actions. So always say sorry whenever you know someone got hurt by what you said or did, and it can go a long way in maintaining healthy relationships with people.
7. Practice good manners
Our behaviors and actions can affect others around us. How we speak, our body language, and how we do things may irritate people if we don't do them correctly. Some examples of good manners include:
- Keeping your mouth closed when eating
- Not talking too loudly when speaking with others
- Don't view or play any content that may be inappropriate in public, especially those that may not be suitable for children
- Don't play loud music, as it can disturb your neighbors, and some may feel irritated when they hear someone playing music in public, even if the volume is not too high
- Try to let others first when doing something, such as when taking turns to get food on the table or letting the elderly go first in line
- Refrain from distracting behavior, such as tapping your finger or pen on a desk or wiggling your legs while sitting on a chair
People can react differently to our actions, so it is best to practice good manners as much as possible so people won't get irritated and maintain peace and civility in our surroundings.
8. Be punctual
Nothing is more inconsiderate than arriving late when meeting someone or having to attend an appointment or event. Sure, you may get a pass if it is a public event, and no one demands you to arrive on time, although you will lose on whatever was presented or done when the event started. However, it is different when it's more personal, such as when someone invites you to arrive at a particular time or a meeting that begins at a specific time. People will expect you to be there on time, and your being late can mean you don't value others' time and efforts. So if you want to be more considerate, learn to respect other people's time and be there at the appointed time. No time gets wasted; you show professionalism and maintain good relationships with the people who invited you.
Being a considerate person can go a long way.
The world will become better if there are more considerate people. Consideration helps a lot in thinking about another person's perspective and welfare. It means that the world doesn't revolve only around you, and others also play a part in influencing your life. Being perceptive of what people may need and acting on it, doing acts of kindness, and saying "thank you" whenever someone does something good to you are some examples of considerate actions. The more we become aware of people around us, the more we can become considerate, and even more so once it becomes a habit for us to do acts of consideration for people. People feel better when you treat them kindly, and our relationship with others will improve once we realize their feelings and be more thoughtful of how they want to be treated.