Thank you for joining us this Sunday. Today, MorningCoach member Tony Booth guest hosts and discusses joy and happiness. These two areas of life are what it is all about and I thank you for being with us.
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Full Transcript: Episode 2887 Joy and Happiness
[00:00:00] Hey there, Morning Coach family! Tony Booth here. In today giving J.B. a little well-deserved break to recover from his surgeries and stuff that he’s going through. And we all look forward to having him back. I am so honored to have this opportunity to speak with you, the Morning Coach community. I’ve been a member of this community since back in the day, when we called into the conference line, and, you know, I’ve been been here with J.B. every day since then. And it’s just, it’s just so exciting, and I feel like you’re all part of my family. You know, we’re all just a big huge family here, trying to do better things in life and just make a better life. And it’s such a privilege today to be here.
[00:00:57] And I’m super excited about talking about joy and happiness. And I really want to dig into, you know, finding joy and happiness throughout our journeys. Because it’s something that I’ve struggled with in the past and I would get myself so caught up in things that I would fail to recognize the joy and happiness along the way. And it happens to all of us at times. You know, we have these dreams we put together. We, we, we create these amazing visions and things that we want, and we start to set out taking those actions and building ourselves, making improvements and working towards those goals and those dreams. We get that focus. You know, we get that eye on the prize where we’re focused so hard on that destination of where we want to get to, that we, we end up forgetting some of the most important parts of life. And that’s the joy and happiness that we get along the way. We forget that life is about the journey, not the destination.
[00:02:32] So, we have to remember that those real treasures, those real things that we’re going to remember, are not necessarily the day we reached that goal, but they’re the events and the things that happened during our destination, during our journey to our destination. That’s where the little nuggets are found- along the path. We, we forget that these treasures are out there, and we let the joy and happiness of life pass us by. And I understand. We all have struggles, and depending on those struggles, sometimes it’s hard. OK? I know. It’s hard to find the joy and happiness around you when you’re trying to figure out how we’re going to pay the mortgage, or, you know, if we are struggling with health issues, it’s so easy to block that joy and happiness out and forget all about life is supposed to be fun. That’s what we’re here for. Yeah. We’re here, we’re here on you know in this journey of life to do amazing things, but they all involve having joy and happiness in our life. If you think about it, when you sit down and, you know, you picture your goals, your dreams and you start to visualize that, do you have a scour on your face? Of course not. Because every dream and goal, we’re joyful, we’re happy. That’s usually one of the biggest describers of, of that time where we feel we made it. That destination is joy and happiness. But we get confused, and we think that the destination is what brings the joy and happiness. And it’s not.
[00:04:46] We have to bring the joy and happiness. We have to let the joy and happiness happen. And no matter where you are or what state you’re in, the joy and happiness is all around us. It’s out there. As Lee talked about yesterday, getting out nature in and enjoying some of that can bring joy and happiness. And if you don’t believe me that joy and happiness is everywhere around us, just take a moment to look at some kids. Look at children playing on a playground. I mean, heck, we get children standing at a bus stop waiting to get on a bus, they’re going to be having fun. They make the best of things.
[00:05:38] Reminds me, you know, it’s kind of a story I went through this week with my daughter. She’s 10 years old. And Friday night there was a birthday party for her friend. And all week, you know, for the past, at least a week, she’s been talking about this party, this amazing party that her friend’s having, and how excited because her and six other girls or whatever are going to ride the bus home together and they’re going to this girl’s house for this birthday party. So, when she first starts telling me about it, I’m thinking it’s got to be, you know, they’re going to go to, you know, some big trampoline house or something where the girls can, you know, jump around, run around and have fun, and they get to have all this stuff planned. And so I started asking her, you know, “OK, what are you doing at the party?” And she gets all excited and tells me that, “we’re painting rocks!” and I’m like, “you’re painting rocks?” She’s like, “yeah, we’re going to paint rocks. We’re going to Epworth, and we’re going to, we’re going to put them around. We’re going to hide them around the park, and then, and then after we hide ours, we’re going to go look for other ones!” And these girls are super excited about going out, painting rocks, and hiding them. As I asked more questions, I figured out that this is something cool that the kids do here, and I think is pretty amazing. And they go to these parks, and they hide these little rocks with their, you know, they paint little pictures on them and stuff, and then other kids go and try to find them. And I think it’s cool. Right? But they’re super excited about something as simple as painting rocks. And hiding them for somebody else to find them.
[00:07:30] When’s the last time that you let your guard down enough that you could have fun and find joy and happiness in something so simple as painting and hiding rocks? I don’t know what it is. I don’t know what happens along the way, but it happens to all of us. Right? We were all those kids one day. Some of us WAY longer, like me a long time ago, but we all found joy in things back then. You know, we’d walk by a pond, we’d see some rocks, we’d pick them up, and we’d skip them across the thing to see how many times we could skip a rock across the water. If you were out walking past a pond today, what are the chances you’re going to stop and pick that rock up and try to skip it?
[00:08:24] As we get older, we get these blinders that start to close in, and it’s like we feel that we have to be solely focused on our prizes, our destination, our goals. So much so, that we forget to slow down, open the door, and let some joy and happiness come into our lives. We need to make it a practice to do a better job at allowing all of the joy and happiness that is around us, allowing that to come in, allowing ourselves to recognize it, to let the guard down, to peel back the blinders and say, “wow, I’m going to skip a rock. I’m going to run through the woods. I’m gonna enjoy what’s going on no matter how bad it is.” There’s always some joy and happiness around you. So, we have to make a conscience, conscious effort at doing a better job at letting that joy and happiness come into our lives.
[00:09:45] So, a few things that I wanted to share with you that that I started doing over the last four or five years that have really helped me, and I wanted to share those with you so that you can open up your doors and let a little bit more joy and happiness in, you know, find some more of those golden nuggets along the journey to make life so memorable. And one is to to play like a child. The next time you have the opportunity that you’re driving by a playground or happen to be around somewhere where you see a swing set or one of those little spinning merry-go-round things, stop, get out, and go swing for five minutes. Go push a couple kids on the merry-go-round. Just have some fun. If we can be more childlike once in a while and play like a child, go grab those rocks and skip them across the water. Go do some of the things that you used to have fun doing when you were a kid stomping in mud puddles, getting soaking wet in the pouring down rain. Those were fun times, and they will still bring you so much joy and happiness today if you just let your guard down enough to do them. Act silly. Dance! There are so many things that we can do that put a little smile on our face every day. If we just learn to play like a child once in a while.
[00:11:31] Another habit I developed over the years, and, and it really helps me with this is in my… I’ve added some joy and happiness to my gratitude exercises. So every day, when you’re sitting down and going through the Sacred Six and your filling out what you’re grateful for, add a line, add one more line and write down what brought you joy and happiness today. Because there was always something that brought you joy and happiness. You may have overlooked it, but there was something during the day that put at least a little crack of a smile on your face. And the more we start to recognize that those things were out there, the more when we, the more we’re going to open up when we run across them, and we’re going to allow those in. We’re going to allow ourselves to enjoy that joy and happiness along the way. So, start writing one more line in your gratitude journal of what brought you joy and happiness today.
[00:12:45] And the last thing I want to share with you is one that’s, that’s been amazing and it has amazing returns too. It’s just part of the whole way the universe works. But that’s to really bring joy to someone else every day. Take that opportunity when you’re standing in the checkout line at the store to interact with the clerk. Give them a compliment. Thank them. A big exciting “Hello.” Something to put a smile on their face, to share some joy and happiness with them. Because what you give out in joy and happiness will come back to you tenfold. So, if you make this habit every day, whether it’s a stranger, a coworker, your boss, your significant other, do something to, to unselfishly provide joy to that person. And, again, this doesn’t, this doesn’t have to be gifts. It’s just compliments. It’s something that we share, some experience, some, some good compliments, some, some, just a loving “thank you” will do amazing things for people. And when we do that, there is no way that you can go out and bring joy and happiness to someone else without feeling it inside yourself. And all of that just helps to make the world a better place. And even if they’re not happy, it makes us feel good. So take some time every day and find someone that you can bring joy to their life.
[00:14:38] And you start practicing these three steps, and you’ll do, we can, we can start knocking down those walls and letting joy and happiness come back into our lives. Because that is what’s important. Thank you so much for allowing me this opportunity to speak to you. And I love you all. It’s an amazing community that we’re part of. Thank you so much, again. And everybody have an amazing Sunday.